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Author: Pool_55 Subject: Bringing someone new to house
chargerx
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posted on 03-14-2011 at 11:35 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Bringing someone new to house

 Hello, to make a long story short I have been divorced since November 2010 after 9 years. Doing my best to cope with everything as it was not my decision to initiate the divorce. I live alone now in my own house, which was "our" house. I've redecorated it to the best of my ability which has helped somewhat. Anyway I am seeing a new girl but I just can't bring myself to have her over to my house. It sounds stupid but I guess I still feel like this house will always be mine & my ex's house and having someone new over just feels odd/wrong/scary. The ex and I built it from the ground up. Has anyone else felt this way? It sounds ridiculous because it is just a house but with all my memories here I just can't seem to do it.
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posted on 04-04-2011 at 19:20 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
new people

 It definitely does not sound ridiculous. I think many of us can understand your trepidation, especially as you said you did not initiate the divorce. Maybe a part of you still feels loyal to that memory.

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posted on 04-05-2011 at 13:41 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Understandable

 Your situation is really understandable, I think anyone would have trouble with this situation especially when you are not the one who decided to initiate the divorce. I think you feeling this way is natural, but it probably won't last forever. Eventually, maybe sooner than later, you will be able to move forward and invite another person into the house. Maybe in the future you will feel most comfortable starting anew and getting a new place with someone.
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