luckycharmsuntouched
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posted on 06-04-2006 at 22:38 |
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Who can give me their perspective?
I am a virgin and once planned on staying that way until marrige. Then I decided that staying a virgin until marrige is not really important to me. it was only important to my best friends and my family. I feel like I am ready to take that step. However, I am not dating anyone at the moment and i dont want to just give it to anyone. In my opinion, my virginity is a gift and should not be given without thought.
Here is where my problem arises, the last person I was planning on having sex with ended up breaking up with me. It turned out that he was not the person I thought he was..to make a long story short. If I was about to give it to someone who didnt care about it this past time, how do I trust that I am going to make the right choice when the time does come?
Any assistance would be helpful.
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Drooh
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posted on 06-10-2006 at 11:41 |
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Drooh's Vyooh.
How can you trust that it will ever be the right time then?
Establish rapport, utilise instinct and assess the person on what you learn. If they seem worth it and you're comfortable, get naked and have fun.
If it all messes up and they were stringing you along, then too bad! But you know, this can happen to anyone and this is what makes imparting trust a risk.
Has this stopped the majority of humanity in the past?
No.
Not everyone is scummy and if it turns out that you meet someone who is then you can only reassure yourself that not everyone you're going to meet is a scumbag, because the next guy you meet might be 'the one'.
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sweettart
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posted on 06-10-2006 at 13:45 |
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focus
My advice to virgin under 25.Will you stop worrying about losing your virginity.Your focus should be getting an education and a job.There will be time for sex.How about keeping yourself busy with hobbies.
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Jon1980
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posted on 06-17-2006 at 07:47 |
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Communication!
Drooh knows what he's talking about!
Communication is important, I mean REAL communication, don't just try and read people, get to know them properly.
Of course their are always little signs that people give off that you may think "hey, is he telling the truth, I'm not sure" but don't trust those over really talking with someone.
Jon1980 UK
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Charizma
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posted on 09-18-2006 at 19:11 |
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Kudos
'My advice to virgin under 25.Will you stop worrying about losing your virginity.Your focus should be getting an education and a job.There will be time for sex.How about keeping yourself busy with hobbies.'
HIGH FIVE on that one.
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vrgn18
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posted on 01-08-2007 at 20:59 |
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Somebody once told me that when I find the right person I will know without a doubt in my mind...everything would be so clear and understanding.... Dont worry about family and friends..Do what you think is right..If you think its your time then do it. If not there is nothing wrong with waiting, Im glad im still waiting because when I find the right one it will be so much more special then with anyone else...Just look in your heart and make the decision yourself and dont let anyone influence your decision...Its yours to make and thats that.
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duncan
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posted on 02-18-2008 at 20:34 |
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my 2 cents
I would advise you to try to find someone who genuinely cares about you and have sex. It doesn't have to be "Mr. Right" or the future father of your children. Sex can be very emotional and bonding but it's not some spiritual nirvana or anything. It's simply sex and the experience can be as much as you put into it. Just make sure you're with a guy who cares and will be understanding and patient with you. Date him 2-3 months and then go for it.
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Joe0440
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Registered: 10-10-2008 Location: Illinois
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posted on 10-10-2008 at 13:45 |
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Love
From people that I have talked to and from my own beliefs (No they are not religion based). I believe that you should just make sure that you love the person first. My situation is similar to yours, and I have the same concern as you. I was in love with a girl but we broke up, so you just have to be sure that you too are in love.
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